Open Letter to The "Just Wait" Crowd

Namastè!

I'm annoyed this morning. I haven't had my coffee and I'm not feeling so great...and I just got hit 3 times by the Just Wait Crew. Augh!

For the uninitiated, the "just wait" crew hangs around social circles just like normal, average people. They have a magic superpower though--the ability to make you fear what's to come. (If you let them, anyway.) 

Examples? Pregnant mom is uncomfortable in her early stages and voices that discomfort. The Crew swoops in. Just wait until you reach *insert farther week, with bigger discomfort*

Toddler mom is experiencing a new toddler thing that her sweet baby wasn't doing before. Oh, just wait until *insert another, possibly more annoying toddler behavior*

Dear Just Wait Crew,

Salutations!

As politely as I can, I must tell you--SHUT UP.

When a mom is uncomfortable in her pregnancy or having a hard day with symptoms, your "just wait" is plain rude.

When a toddler is going through a phase that wears on his or her parents, your "just wait" is really not warranted.

When a parent is experiencing something new, unexpected, or unplanned for (and honestly, what about this isn't new, unexpected, or unplanned for?!), your "just wait" is really not needed.

Are you sensing a trend here, one-upper?

Are you beginning to see how your "just wait" does nothing to soothe the current fray but (for some) can do everything to undo whatever confidence they have that it does get easier?

What do you get out of it? Is there some benefit to being a harbinger of doom? Is it fun being a dark cloud?

The root of my aggravation with you? I will happily expound. You are a dark cloud. You rain on parades that are not necessarily happening. Do you really think that things have to be your level of uncomfortable/unnerving/etc before people are allowed to speak on them?

When a kid has a tantrum and mom or dad is slightly undone, exactly what do you gain by telling them "just wait til they do it worse?"

What if they don't?  What if they never ever tantrum to that level again, and they never get worse? Would that disappoint you?

I have a suggestion for you "just wait" types.

When a parent, or human in general, is speaking on something they're experiencing and you feel that tingle to chime in like you so often do?

JUST WAIT.

Just wait until you're not trying to win the one-up contest. Just wait until you realize there IS no one-up contest. Just wait...

Until you're NOT trying to steal spotlights people haven't even turned on yet

Namastè!

-- Tayè K. ♡