My Mom Tribe

Namastè!

I hope you're basking in this lovely autumn weather, and that your namastè be ever strong.

Moms are a funny sect. We all do the same thing, yet differently. Some of us are slacker, some of us be sancti. Some are Pinterest mavens, while others take pride in not owning Mason jars at all.

We all have our special tribe. The group of moms we confide in, share milestones with, and grieve over setbacks alongside.

Finding your mom tribe is a bit tricky. Simply making mom friends is daunting enough on its own. Finding your tribe?! It might be easier to find that paci Baby Namastè tossed from the stroller last week.

The tribe is a tight group. These will be your besties as you navigate the trials and tribulations of parenting. These girls may not share every principle, but they share a common respect and symbiosis. Example: I nurse. I'm also mommy to a couple older kids Namastè. So for nursing or questions about the big kid stages, in the go-to gyal. Inversely, I have not had a tiny baby in the house for ten years. Some of my tribals are a little younger and are hip to the latest baby gear as well as the newest research reports. We all work together to keep the kids alive and happy, and we run like a well-oiled machine. We are like a circle of elephants--we care for and about the tribe children, and we all put our various skills and wisdom toward making sure each child hits and surpasses their potential.

That's not to say we share a mindset. To the contrary, actually. In my tribe, there are tattoo moms. Cheerleader moms. Stay at home moms. Working moms. Student moms. Moms who cook gourmet meals. Moms who can't boil water. Nursing moms. Bottle moms. Cry-it-out moms. Attachment moms. We are not a huge tribe, but our traits and styles overlap and mesh and meld to make us one giant Mom'imus Prime!!!

The mom tribe is not to be confused with mom clique. A mom clique does not better a mom or increase her knowledge base. Cliques are little groups of people who think, talk, and act alike. Cliques don't operate by unity, but usually a mutual dislike for a mom, a mom style, or a choice (breastfeeding vs formula, vax vs non-vax, elephant moms vs tiger moms). They're divisive. Tribes are INCLUSIVE, cliques are EXCLUSIVE. Tribes usually stay on the smaller side, a group of moms who go and grow through the day-to-day, together. The tribe women know each other at a far more personal level than mere friends or associates. Cliques either know you because you are similar, or ostracize you because you are different.

Find your tribe. I promise, you'll breathe a sigh of relief. There's nothing like having someone who legit has your back. You will be mommy forever, but within your tribe you also get to be YOU.

Namastè!

-- Tayè K ♡